Dad Diaries: The Biggest Thing to Ever Happen

EDITORS NOTE:  THIS IS 'CUZ' NOT THE HUBBY! LOL Yes, someone asked.  Eh. No. But he rocks!

EDITORS NOTE:  THIS IS 'CUZ' NOT THE HUBBY! LOL Yes, someone asked.  Eh. No. But he rocks!

This June we will have been in Philly for 8 years.  I can't even believe it.  That's a VERY long time for this radio girl who has traveled the country in the business before settling here.  But truth be told, Philly was all my husband's idea when he got offered a job after his job moved to LA.  

I had never been to Philly until the day we drove in to this place.  Fast forward to a very tough first 5 years both personally & professionally.  As many of my dear friends and longtime readers know... I use to the be the 'talented' one. lol I was on the air after Boston was born doing afternoons on HOT AC, my DREAM job at Now 97.5.  But... in the back of my mind I always knew that this city was a rock & sports town & there was always the radio chance of a format flip.  Well... I wasn't expecting it only 3 months into my own show...

Nor did I expect the way that it would go down.  Finding out on Facebook while I was on the air at 4:30p in the afternoon that I was losing my job.  TO MY HUSBAND.  Yeah.  That was probably the worst weekend of my married life.  It was a lot of personal heartbreak because I had no idea it was coming.  I felt like the biggest loser after everyone hit the studio asking me if they were losing their jobs when in fact - it was the very first I had ever heard of it.  I felt blindsighted.

My husband who had this tiny - stinky - locker room - smelling - hole in the wall AM station that he moved into and took it all the way to being the FIRST FM sports station in Philly.  And any normal wife would have celebrated to high heaven for their husband because that is one heck of an accomplishment. 

Truth be told.... it was the ultimate test of our marriage.  Because personally.... I was livid.  Humiliated.  Mortified.  Professionally - it was horrific to be the center of media gossip columns.  It proved true to me when my general manager at Better Philly, the TV show I hosted on WPHL, told me that 'I was the talk of the station for a good month' because everyone knew we were married &  everyone had the 'what would you do?' conversation.  

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You see...my husband had to sign a confidentiality agreement and if he told me and it got out - we'd both be out of a job.  And I believe wholeheartedly it wasn't suppose to go down that way...some jackmunch from national ESPN wanted to be 'first' and leaked the news - therefore all hell broke loose.

Yeah.  It was a bizarre merge of my professional & personal life.  Brutal AND Bizarre.  Honestly, when big things happen like that - it is the nature of the business.  But that didn't help my heart from breaking over it at the time.

It took me years to realize & understand that he never intentionally meant to hurt me.  Oi.  By the grace of GOD we've moved forward from that awful experience. (Although... there were moments when I let resentment get the best of me.  Especially in the beginning when it happened.)  But as each day passes the healing moves forward.

Yes. I did spend a few years after that in the gutter.  But the light at the end of the tunnel happened when I made the decision to forgive him.  And to move forward for MYSELF.  

The past few years has been great.  And by the Grace of God we've learned and grown, survived & thrived.  He did his thing and I did mine.  And we supported each other in ways that rebuilt our relationship.  That's what marriage is all about isn't it?

So, I share the past with you so that I can celebrate the future.  

We have an ongoing joke in our house where he comes home and says 'but honey, you don't understand - this is the biggest thing to ever happen to the radio station'!  He's use that excuse often till finally I told him - he can't use that excuse anymore because he sounds like the 'boy who cried wolf'.

And today - I'm going to PROUDLY allow him to relish in his accomplishments.  One that he TRULY deserves.  

I'm a competitive person.  (That has a lot to do with my radio years - that old school crosstown rivalry was awesome!!)  And as I watch my husband always take the high road - it's so great to see this come to fruition for him.  He brought in a guy that he'd been going out to dinners with for years!!  He loves 'CUZ'! 

Today, this non-sports fan is her husband's BIGGEST FAN.  Anthony Gargano starts the first morning show in 97.5 The Fanatic history.  As a former morning radio host - having a morning show is the anchor to the rest of the day. Live & Local is a program director dream team.  

So, my dearest Matty.  Even though you've been so cordial about this & the magnitude of having Gargano on your station - I'm going to say it for you.

This is the BIGGEST thing to ever happen to your radio station.  

And a bittersweet long time coming.  I'm so proud of your professionalism.  Your desire to WIN.  Your dedication & your leadership has been the anchor of success to that station.  I admire you. To think of what you accomplished in the short time that we've been here is monumental.  As I watch from the wings how the 'other' station acts worse than 2nd graders - I love and admire how you act and not RE-act.  

You're a classy dude.  And our boys are so very lucky to have a role model like you in their life.  

May this be the biggest & best year for you yet.  Cause heaven knows you deserve it. 

Love,  your biggest fans

PS:  Does this event constitute handbag worthy? hahah  Ok, I just got a new car a week ago.  That's good enough.  =)

 

 

 

 

joey fortman

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